Have you ever been disappointed or let down by someone, even in really stupid ways? I recently re-connected with an old friend who I absolutely LOVED. We had the most fun together. Funniest guy I know. Seriously. I dont think i ever had a conversation with this guy where I didnt walk away with tears streaming down my face in laughter.

Well I've just discovered that he has apparently become best friend's with my ex-brother-in-law. I knew there was a chance of it, they both work for the local town government, but it just never really occurred to me that they would become besties. :\

I dont know if anyone remembers my story of my ex brother-in-law, but speaking as the sisterinlaw/aunt of his kids, he is the biggest scumbag to ever curse the Earth.

Speaking as just a regular person, he's absolutely deplorable.

The things he has done, not just to my sister (which i can deal with) but to his kids? To MY neice and nephews? It makes me sick. Im not exaggerating. When i find things out I want to throw up and cry at the same time. Better yet, I want to hurt him. With my bare hands. A lot.

Now, I'm not going to be like 'Oh, you're bff with him? Fuck you!" I still love my friend and am super psyched we re-connected. But it's been dulled now. In fact, I almost think a little less of him. I don't know.


Am I wrong to judge? I don't feel like i am. I feel like the type of person you are can be seen in the people you share most of your time with.



Add to all the above, I've found out he is no longer with his wife and is seeing a younger woman. Not the BIGGEST surprise in the world as everyone and their uncle knew it was only a matter of time before that marriage ended, but I feel like that makes him more like my brother-in-dick than I had wanted to believe.

 

Then again, maybe that's why he was drawn to my BIL.  

I don't know. It's bummed me out.